If you still love someone your not with answer this?
Posted on March 14th, 2010 by jack
From the moment I first saw her I was hooked again, after 8 years I was able to talk to her like I could to no one else, we liked the same things, same music, same food, everything. We were together for about a year, and thats when things stared falling apart, we moved out together, she developed a addiction to painkillers and was hiding it from me,(not that I'm any kind of angel) but finally she told me and at the time I couldn't take it that she would lie to me about this. So we broke up she left and I stayed at our place. Over the last 10 or so months of having this place we have started talking and stopped talking about 4 times (i.e. her moving back and then leaving again). I'm not obsessed with her, I love her with all my heart. I understand that if she doesn't want to be with me that's fine, I let her go and don't contact her unless there is something that must be talked about. I love her and she says she still loves me which I do believe.
So basically here is my question.
Is it fair that even though I don't feel like I should be there for her to come back to, that I would in a heartbeat? That I would do any thing I possibly could and even try to do something I knew impossible just to say I tried for her? Should I try to change this? what could I do? Is there some way to just tell you self you can't love this person anymore?
The next guy I dated was someone that I loved a lot. He was a recovering drug addict, and for a long time it was a really good. But then he fell off the wagon and basically destroyed our relationship. It was incredibly hard for me to let go of him, or as I saw it, "to give up on him."
I think that I was subconsciously trying to save him, because I couldn't save the first.
It sounds like this may be happening to you. I wish that I could convince you to stop dating her, but I also understand what love is. You're just gonna have to go through the battle for yourself. It would probably help to see a therapist though. Good luck.
She will give you the answer you need.
We all have love for various people, but sometimes it just doesn't work out. Don't kill yourself thinking about a woman who won't be there for you or give you the affection and attention you need.
She must be removed from your life if you are to move on from this.
Good luck.
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