Posted on March 13th, 2010 by anonym
My account just got deleted for asking this question! So I had to make a new account
Why won't my parents let me go on the pill or buy condoms?
I live in Massachusetts where the age of consent is 16, and my parents have stopped my allowance because they don't want me buying condoms, since the age of consent is 16 is it none of there business?
Im 16 btw. it is their business if you live in their home and they furnish you allowence... BUT on the other hand, if you Are in fact having sex, i would rather you buy your condoms and be responsible. I was a teenager once and as I have become older, i see thing differently now, then i did then. Your parents only want the best for you, and they are trying to force you into not having sexual relationships, when it isn't going to happen,,, We all know, where there's a will there's a way... You need to sit and discuss this with your parents. They need to know!!!! I do not condome pre marital sex myself, but i am not going to sit back and say have unprotected sex at all. I'd rather you Not have sex, but if you are, I'd rather it be safe. That is just my feeling on the subject!! Best of Luck.. Oh, if you are old enough to have Sex, then get a job and buy your own condoms... That was my solution when faced with this same issue at your age...Listen up: Your parents have been around for a few more years than you. They have seen and experienced things you would find shocking. They are trying to protect you during one of the most vulnerable stages of a young person's life. At this age, most kids think they are bulletproof. Your ability to deflect and deny any internal warning mechanism is amazing so your parents are doing it for you. Why not thank them for loving you, for trying to give you a chance to make it in life? Put yourself in their shoes and stop being so selfish. They have raised you from a baby to this point. They were overjoyed when you came into this world and ordered their lives to meet your needs. You don't have the right to now turn and spit in their faces. How ungrateful is that. On a kinder note, one day, you will have children and they will go through the same stage you are. Don't screw up here and you will be in a stronger position when that time comes....if you listen to your parents. Life is not about sex! Life is about building relationships. If you tear down the relationship with your parents just so someone can make you easy to get used, your thinking is messed up. Just because the law allows something doesn't mean you should do it. I dare you to take a mature stance on this and listen to them. You called them "mean" yet you are crashing their hopes for you right into the dirt. You are mean and selfish and hurting them. Unless you change, you will be crawling back home to suck your wounds on a regular basis. Love triumphs.I understand that they are trying to protect you, but if you are going to have sex anyway, you should probably use protection. No reason for a 16yr old to get pregnant.
Talk to them in a mature level, and if they still act immature, then all you can do is try and be the adult. You live under their roof, so as far as they think you are dependant on them. They pay for you and at 16 youre not yet independant. Think about what they would do if they found out that you had had sex, would they be annoyed? Would they be disgusted by you? You would have to live with them thinking that. If your set on doing this then become independant, ie, get a job, your own place.!!
Or alternatively you could remain at home and have an adult conversation with your parents on how you could show them you are mature enough to handle this.they wont let you because they think it will stop you from having sex
you dont need their permission to buy them so why would you ask?
you basicly asked if you could have sex, that is why they said noI think your parents should be thankful that you are wanting to buy condoms and take responsibility rather than be like so many teenage girls and just get pregnant.
Is there not a health clinic or somewhere you could get them from for free?First, I have to say that your parents aren't being immature. They're facing a difficult situation in the best way they can.
You didn't say exactly why your parents aren't supporting your wish to go on birth control. It would help if you stated whether or not they have religious concerns, or if it is solely to prevent you from having sex.
All the age of consent means is that if you choose to have sex, your partner can't be prosecuted. Your partner could be prosecuted under certain circumstances, but the age of consent makes the results more complicated.
It is absolutely their business. Their job is to make sure you get the best possible start in your adult life, which will begin when you turn 18. That best possible start doesn't include sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, or emotional trauma from relationships that you may not have been ready for. Condoms break, and the pill doesn't protect you against STDs. Even used together, they aren't foolproof. I knew of more than one person at college who could attest to that.
It's their job to educate you about sex, not to participate in your sex life. Birth control is part of a mature woman's sex life, even if religious constraints mean it's a matter of a calendar and a thermometer. A mature woman chooses her sexual partners wisely, ensures she takes proper precautions and gets the correct medical care. It's an indicator of your maturity that you aren't able to do that yourself without an allowance and that you've brought your sex life to strangers for advice.
Ask your parents why they've chosen not to assist you. That's the first thing you should have done. It's monumentally immature to say that it's because they're being "mean" to you. Do good parents who want to be "nice" bring a bouquet of condoms to their kids and drive them to the person who will most likely break their child's heart? I'm glad my parents weren't that "nice".#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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